Wow, you clicked on that link. It's hard to believe you're that gullible. It's hard to believe anyone is that gullible. But hey, you clicked on it, and for better or worse, now you're here. Let's see if we can't at least make it worth your while.
Truth is, I want you to fall in love. Thankfully I know how to teach you to fall in love. Even more thankfully, I'm going to share. Not some ridiculous Hollywood version of falling in love. Not the love-that's-only-love-till-the-lust-runs-out. I'm talking real, honest-to-goodness, lost your footing at the precipice of "us" and fell into a lifelong, identity-altering, love.
It's not romantic unless you want it to be. I'm not talking about the love that winds up with two people happily married, at least, not necessarily. You want that to still be a choice, right? This is about intentionally falling into love, the kind of love that makes both parties better for having taken the plunge. What you do after that is your business.
I want you to find the love you already have, hopefully abundantly. It's the kind of love you have for your family, your spouse, your close friends. But why stop there? Why just love the people you're supposed to? What if you could love everyone? What if you at least tried?
The cardinal rule of falling in love is a double sided coin - you are going to devote yourself to the task of leaving the other person better than you found them, and you are going to give them every opportunity to do the same for you. In other words, the central tenet of falling in love is to realize that more often than not it's going to be a very short drop - a very short, potentially life-altering drop.
Step 1: The Importance of Being Ernest
Each step has six fundamental questions. You should be able to answer all the questions for a step in a conversation of about 20 minutes. So, if things go well, in roughly one hour and four minutes, you'll find yourself mid free-fall. Feel free to take the time if you have it, but be intentional. Falling in love is largely about ensuring that you and the Other feel good, and feeling good has the unfortunate property of being disappointingly transient. The best way for anyone to feel good is to feel clever, witty, creative, and surprising; terribly few of us are capable of feeling that way for long.
The main goal to step 1 is to establish something, anything to answer the following six questions:
- What is something that makes people important to the Other?
- What is something that the Other believes is an ideal outcome or chain of events?
- What is something the Other sees about themselves in the future?
- What is something that makes the Other feel?
- What is something the Other appreciates or regrets about their past?
- What is something the Other would change about themselves or their life?
- What does the Other most value about something?
- What does the Other most want to do / know / be / change?
- What is the one thing the Other could never forget?
- Who does the Other love?
- What does the Other think about love?
- What does the Other think about you?
- What does the Other think about us?
- What does the Other most want to share with the people close to them?
- What does the Other need me to know about them? What do they need to know about me?
- How is the Other broken?
- What can't the Other let go of? Who can't the Other let go of?
- How does the Other feel about you? How does the Other think you feel?
- Look into the Other's eyes.